Breaking Free from Life Limiting Beliefs (Part 1)

I want to talk about limiting beliefs. I’m going to tell you my personal story of how I discovered the limiting belief that was truly a key part of my illness journey and how changing it was part of my health restoration.

And then we’re going to talk about how you can identify yours and ways that you can change them.

But before that, let’s just talk about what a belief is.

So a belief essentially is a cluster of neurons in your subconscious brain that influence how you interpret and respond to experiences and situations in your life.

Our subconscious mind is predominantly created before the age of seven when our brain is in a state of hypnosis and we just interpret everything around us as being accurate and informative, and we basically just create a whole set of neural pathways based on those things without any judgment.

We don’t understand sarcasm, we don’t get irony, what is said, what is done. It’s fact. We can also do this through repetition. We can add new beliefs to our subconscious mind through repetition or through hypnosis.

And the reason why this is important is that the research has shown us that more than 74% of those neural clusters in our subconscious brain, those beliefs, are life limiting based on what in our conscious mind we are saying we want to achieve.

So what that means is we have these two minds, the conscious and the subconscious mind, and they are out of alignment. They are very imbalanced in that the things we’re choosing to say we want in our lives, the way we choose to behave, the way we choose to live our life, is not supported by the neural patterns that have been created.

So for example you might say, I want to fall in love and have a healthy relationship, but your neural patterns created when you were a young age, or from repetition and hypnosis as we said, will actually say a relationship is dangerous, being vulnerable is dangerous.

A healthy relationship is one where you’re in control. A healthy relationship or love is shown through control. Love is shown through insults. If someone’s rude to you it’s because they care about you, those sorts of things.

So you’re sitting there on the one side in your conscious mind choosing to go out and find someone, but your subconscious mind is drawing you towards a person that fits belief pattern rather than the conscious choice pattern and that’s why it’s unhealthy that’s why it’s not good that’s why they’re life limiting.

But what is great is that we have learned through the studies of neuroplasticity, through the studies of the subconscious mind that we can change these beliefs so that our conscious mind and our subconscious mind can be aligned.

As we are living based off our subconscious beliefs 95% of the time – because when your conscious mind is thinking, creating the future, talking, reading,  whatever it might be doing – your subconscious mind is making decisions for you – adjusting to the environment based on those sets of beliefs.

So, we need to get those both going in the same direction they’re both going to be making decisions that align with what you in your conscious mind have decided you want your life to be about, to look like,  and to be.

So let me tell you my story around how i discovered the limiting belief that i had. If any of you have taken the opportunity to read my story you will know that back in 2011 I was at the pinnacle of my illness after a decade of struggling with western medicine.

Eventually, through the use of some alternative practices i managed to get a diagnosis from my western gastroenterologist who gave me six weeks before i was likely to perforate my bowel with a very low chance of surviving.

So I’ve got six weeks, and I’m not ready to die,  so I have to do something.

I was working with a functional medicine doctor who had been helping me understand a lot more about how the body works and when the doctor’s test said i was fine what that really meant. One of the things he said to me was “I just don’t believe this is entirely physical I think there’s a spiritual aspect to this. I think there’s an emotional mental aspect to this. And I want to introduce you to a friend of his called Adrienne, who was a clairsentient healer”.

Clairsentience essentially means that they manifest your physical issues in their body, and then they heal themselves, and in doing so, they heal you. It’s very rare, it’s also kind of freaky.

So when I met Adrienne, it was over Skype, because we’re back in 2011, no Zoom yet, just Skype. She was in Australia, and we got on the phone, and she said, “oh my God, you must be exhausted. I’ve only had your physical manifestation for 12 hours, and the pain, the exhaustion!” And I was like, oh, I didn’t even realise I was in pain. I’d been in pain for so long.

And she then proceeded to go from the top of my head to the tip of my toes telling me everything that was or ever had been wrong with me. Including how I got scars,  operations I’d had –  all this sort of stuff and she was spot-on and everything.  I mean literally everything – at the end I was just wide-mouthed.

Then she took a pause, and she said “That’s a lot right. But then she says you know what’s really good is it’s actually all down to one issue, one limiting belief that is manifesting itself on every meridian of your body”. We have 12 meridians so essentially that meant this belief had manifested itself in 12 different ways – in each of those meridians.

She said “We heal that one problem we heal the whole thing”.  I said “okay”, but I was very sceptical and I said “what’s the belief?”

and she said that “you’re not enough” and I burst into tears.  It was like she was in my head.

I said “what do you mean you’re not good enough”?

She replied – “you believe you’re not pretty enough, you’re not clever enough, you’re not savvy enough,  it’s not enough in any way and you’ve been pushing yourself so hard to try and be enough and no matter what you do no matter how successful, no matter how endearing you make yourself,  no matter how physically attractive you make yourself,  you will never ever be enough.”

That imbalance, as we said between the conscious mind and the conscious mind.

I was like “okay”

she said “we heal that, you heal”

I said “I’ve got six weeks”

she said “We’d better get started.”

and we did, and we did it in a very unusual way. She used meditation predominantly and then we did some physical things. She’s a nurse so we did some physical things at the end of the six weeks. But for the first five weeks I meditated at sunrise and sunset using different words that held the correct energy frequency to change that.

And we did various treatments (ice therapy, enemas, nature immersion, and we talked one hour a week about me and my life and my achievements and where these beliefs came from). And we changed them.

Now moving on, 14 years, there’s a whole field of belief change modalities now – that work a lot faster. And that’s huge, there’s a lot more understanding around what the core limiting beliefs are. And how they manifest themselves and the emotional, mental, spiritual and physical symptoms that that can cause. And that’s what we want to talk about.

I believe I am here today. One, because I found a parasite and killed it. Two, because I had Ade and she showed me that not being good enough had driven me to the point of existing not living.

Because I couldn’t do anything. I was one of the youngest VP’s the history of Barclays. I was playing county tennis 13, hockey at 16. I got an academic scholarship at 13 despite being dyslexic. I’ve sung in some amazing places including cathedrals around the world. I was on the stage. I did my A-levels in a year because I had glandular fever. All these things I’d been pushing myself so freaking hard because I was trying to be enough, and it just was never going to happen.

And you get to the point where you’re like, I can’t do this anymore. I’m exhausted. I’m done. And that’s where my body got. I think when my relationship broke down and my partner got engaged within six months of our six-year relationship ending, I was just like, fuck, I’m done.

And my body just started shutting down. It was like, yeah, we agree. We’re done. We’ve been working really hard for a really long time with no thank you and no appreciation, nothing. And so, yeah, my body just started shutting down.

My adrenals had stopped. My thyroid had nearly stopped. My gut had stopped. Peristalsis had stopped. You know, my body was showing all the signs of being under intense inflammation and stress. All from one belief.

Changing it changed everything.