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I’m going to be asking you to consider some key concerns and your relationship to them. In an attempt to have you take something that might seem quite philosophical, conceptual, and begin to realize how much that structures internally your health and well-being and structures your day-to-day experience of life.

So the core question is, who is responsible for your key concerns? Who is responsible for your experience of time, for your experience of your space? For your experience of trust? For your experience of identity?

So what do I mean? Well, let’s start with identity as an energy held around the crown chakra. Are you responsible for who you identify in being, in key moments in your life?

How do you find that out? One way is, if people call you something, a nickname, your full name, if they call you relative to a role you play in your family or in your business, does that change who you are, how you think or feel, instantly, like a reaction? Or are you in charge of how you fit underneath what you are called?

In terms of trust, Is it past experience that decides whether you trust something or someone right now in the present and whether you have faith in the future turning out or in things in your future actually happening? Or does the past or your experience of the future being unknown and unpredictable decide whether or not you can trust things or people, even yourself?

The same can be done regarding time. Is time something that you create and dictate? Can you speed up your experience of it and slow it down? Or does that completely depend on the environment that you’re in, what you’re doing in that environment, or the people you are with? The things outside of you have more effect on your experience of time than you do.

And then there is space. How much does the space that you are in and how much room you have dictate your mindset, your mood, and your overall well-being?

Be clear that the answers to these questions are not definitive. That doesn’t mean that once you decide that you’re not in control of your time, that you can never be. In fact, the whole point is simply to realise that at some point, your existing relationship to these things was crystallised, formed by something.

And in fact, it is possible to reform it. But even in just thinking about it, you may notice shifts in your energy, a sense of confusion, a sense of anxiety.

And those experiences, those shifts, are part of the process of freeing yourself from what you have already decided, for what’s already true for you about these key areas.

If you can shift what’s already true for you, you can create a new truth.

Let me know how you get on.

And I thank you for listening to the end.

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So, welcome to a new series of vlogs titled ‘Words from the Dark Healer‘. That’s me, Ben Barnett. So, the Dark Healer is a handle that I’ve used for a number of years now. I don’t use it as often in other areas, but I decided it needed a resurrection. I thought it was a great opportunity to use that title.

This particular vlog is all about the unexpected experiences of spirituality and holistics in different areas of life.

What I want to share about, some of you may already know, but many of you won’t, that I had a 10-year career, I suppose, as a footballer, semi-professionally and professionally, briefly, in the middle, following up on having played university football at the highest levels, who I played for Great Britain students while I was doing my degree at King’s College.

Now, I had two extraordinary experiences that have very definitely shaped the way that I work with elite athletes and also how I experienced myself and my own spirituality. Let me show the first one.

The first one, I was on my home debut playing for Dagenham and Redbridge. And we were already winning the game, I believe, I think it was 2-1. So it wasn’t an urgent situation, but I found myself getting control of the football on the halfway line, looking up and then suddenly finding everything around me going quiet and still. And I saw the goalkeeper was off his line and I realised that I could score from there.

And what was amazing about it was that I had no… none of the questions or doubts in my mind like would I look like an idiot if I missed it? What would happen if it went in? Like would it be a great thing or not?

I just heard my intuition say “this will work” and I hit my shot and it went in and even then I was just in this place of peace and completeness – like of course it went in.

From that moment on I’ve been fascinated with what I call being ‘in the zone’ – as a mental and emotional and physical state and how I could help people get into that space.

In fact I’ve found that you can do it with meditation with guided visualisation and with massage and so I’ve developed some of my techniques around that.

Now fast forward a number of years I’ve had my football career which was very brief at Barnet and if I’m honest I felt like I underachieved I didn’t really do what my potential justice. I found myself working in a high-end holistic centre in Belgravia. Trying to make my way back home , i found myself going the wrong way and saying, I need to get a taxi.

I saw a taxi a quarter of a mile down the road, coming from Knightsbridge, going in the direction I wanted to go in, flagged it down, got in the taxi, got into a conversation with the taxi driver, who said to me, oh, what kind of massage do you do when I brought up the subject? I said, oh, I do various different types. And he said, do you do sports massage? I said, yeah, I do that occasionally. And that’s because I used to play sports, used to be a footballer.

And he said, who did you play for?

I said, Barnett Football Club. And when I said that, he adjusted the mirror so he could see me.

And he said, what’s your name?

And I said, oh, my name’s Ben Barnett. Not a bit ironic in any way.

And he took this deep breath and he said, my name’s Terry Bullivant.

And the hairs on the back of my neck immediately stood up. He was the assistant manager at Barnett when I played there. Must have been 15 years after I had met him. So there’s a 15 year gap between me being at Barnett and me getting into his taxi.

Now, as far as I was concerned, my professional football career was very forgettable. I didn’t really think anybody would remember me. And he said, I’m going to tell you something. Three months ago, I was sitting at a table at a dinner with Gary Phillips and Ray Clements, and we were talking about you.

Now, Gary Phillips was the manager who signed me and Ray Clements was the one who released me, let me go, effectively. And the mere fact that they were talking about me all that time afterwards meant that what I thought was a complete flop of a career must have made an impact on someone in some way, even if they were just talking.

the fact that I was better than my career suggested. I got out of that taxi feeling completely different about who I was, feeling like I didn’t need to be embarrassed to talk about the fact that I had achieved something that many young boys and girls would see as the epitome of achievement, becoming professional in their chosen sport.

A lot of shame and embarrassment fell away from me in that moment. And that was one of the ways that my holistic and spiritual experience and my connection with the universe, you could say, actually allowed me to change something about my relationship with the past.

If you have any stories like this, please do share them with me at joinus@thealchemyofbeing.me

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